Published by Atria Books on July 17th 2018
Genre: Chick Lit
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Quinn and Graham’s perfect love is threatened by their imperfect marriage. The memories, mistakes, and secrets that they have built up over the years are now tearing them apart. The one thing that could save them might also be the very thing that pushes their marriage beyond the point of repair.
All Your Perfects is a profound novel about a damaged couple whose potential future hinges on promises made in the past. This is a heartbreaking page-turner that asks: Can a resounding love with a perfect beginning survive a lifetime between two imperfect people?
Colleen Hoover is quickly becoming one of my favorite authors. I loved the two books of hers I have read so much that I already have two more picked out for my 2019 reading challenge. This book was another one I read on my cruise…in two days. When I closed the book, after reading the last word, I just sat back with tears in my eyes and sighed. For me that is always the marking of a great book. I love her writing style, I always fall in love with one or more of the characters, but this book especially resonated with me. Without getting into too many personal details I have struggled with infertility in my marriage. It also is me who is the problem so I relate so, so much with Quinn. Marriage itself is hard, throw fertility issues into it and that makes it that much harder. Whether you can relate or not I really recommend this book if you want to feel all the feels!
I really like how Hoover ended the book. It may have been tempting to end the book with Quinn finally having a baby but I feel like that would have taken away from the story. Not everyone gets their miracle and, while everyone wants a happy ending, I really loved that Hoover didn’t end it tied up in a perfect little bow.
“If you only shine light on your flaws, all your perfects will dim.”
“What’s the secret to a perfect marriage?’ The old man leaned forward and looked at me very seriously. ‘Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. No marriage is perfect. There were times when she gave up on us. There were even more times when I gave up on us. The secret to our longevity is that we never gave up at the same time.”
“When you meet someone who is good for you, they won’t fill you with insecurities by focusing on your flaws. They’ll fill you with inspiration, because they’ll focus on all the best parts of you.”
“We’re all full of flaws. Hundreds of them. They’re like tiny holes all over our skin. And like your fortune said, sometimes we shine too much light on our own flaws. But there are some people who try to ignore their own flaws by shining light on other people’s to the point that the other person’s flaws become their only focus. They pick at them, little by little, until they rip wide open and that’s all we become to them. One giant, gaping flaw.”
“No matter how much you love someone—the capacity of that love is meaningless if it outweighs your capacity to forgive.”
“The problem is, love and happiness are not concordant. One can exist without the other.”
“I promise to love you more when you hate me than when you love me.”
“Sometimes when people change, it’s not always noticeable in a marriage, because the couple changes together, in the same direction. But sometimes people change in opposite directions.”
“People can’t always control who their circumstances turn them into.”
“I think that’s the difference in the marriages that survive and the marriages that don’t. Some people think the focus in a marriage should be put on all the perfect days. They love as much and as hard as they can when everything is going right. But if a person gives all of themselves in the good times, hoping the bad times never come, there may not be enough resources or energy left to withstand those Category 5 moments.”
“I promise to love you more when you’re hurting than when you’re happy. I promise to love you more when we’re poor than when we’re swimming in riches. I promise to love you more when you’re crying than when you’re laughing. I promise to love you more when you’re sick than when you’re healthy. I promise to love you more when you hate me than when you love me. I promise to love you more as a childless woman than I would love you as a mother. And I promise . . . I swear . . . that if you choose to end things between us, I will love you more as you’re walking out the door than on the day you walked down the aisle.”
“Our marriage didn’t collapse. It didn’t suddenly fall apart. It’s been a much slower process. It’s been dwindling, if you will. I’m not even sure who is most at fault. We started out strong. Stronger than most; I’m convinced of that. But over the course of the last several years, we’ve weakened. The most disturbing thing about it is how skilled we are at pretending nothing has changed, We don’t talk about it. We’re alike in a lot of ways, one of them being our ability to avoid the things that need the most attention. In our defense, it’s hard to admit that a marriage might be over when the love is still there. People are led to believe that a marriage ends only when the love has been lost. When anger replaces happiness. When contempt replaces bliss. But Graham and I aren’t angry at each other. We’re just not the same people we used to be.”